Any advice of my way of thinking?!?

Stop thinking about it so much. When love comes it won't matter if it is a boy or a girl and you won't care. Don't rush into these things, just because your kind of "effeminate," doesn't mean you have to dedicate your whole life to being that way. It is just a character trait. I live in rural Texas, and everybody thinks I'm gay just because I from the city. Nobody can tell you what you are, it is up to you to make these decisions. And, all I can say is; try and find something else to do besides think about sex. I know at your age it is a big load on your mind, but if you stay busy with something that interest you, then someone will eventually come along and spark a true romance.